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Are You
Dateable?
by Jennifer Good
So often when there is something we
decide we want, we spend all of our
focus and energy on the flow of
getting it. Unfortunately, what we
don't realize is that with an
attentive eye focused on ourselves we
will find the answer to our quest. If
you've ever wondered why you may be
finding it difficult to find your
perfect match, it may be time to
analyze what it is you are offering.
The following questions are aimed at
helping you discover your dateability.
Are you happy?
People pick up on unconscious
thoughts. If you're not happy, it is
pretty safe to say you are permeating
the air with your negativity. Find out
what would really make you happy, and
do it! Positive people are people
magnets. Find yourself and you may
also find the other half you are
looking for.
Do you say "my ex" more than 5 times a
day?
What's done is done. If you want a
potential partner to remain
interested, don't give off signs that
you're still emotionally committed.
Allow yourself the freedom to be free.
Sometimes it is easier to cling to the
past than to face what is right in
front of you. Don't let thoughts of an
ex hold you back from enjoying your
future.
Are you financially stable?
While this is not an end-all
criterion, it does reflect how
independent, stable or ambitious you
are. If you're not in a comfortable
financial place now, make a change. Do
some research on getting out of debt,
or ways to increase your monetary
flow. You'll feel happier, and be a
better catch, even if all you have is
a plan of action that you are carrying
out.
Do you have future goals, dreams or
desires?
A dream is an aspiration for something
greater than you have now. It could
mean improving yourself, visiting a
foreign land, or even owning a rare
collector's piece. Whatever your
dreams and goals are to you, it is
important to have them, and have plans
to achieve them. A person who is
trying to achieve a goal or dream is
showing that they are willing to grow
as a person. It can also show your
ability to make something happen for
yourself and possibly for a potential
partner.
What are you doing for you?
If you aren't engaged in any hobbies,
self-improvement or other interests
you may be giving signals that you
will be overly dependent on a
potential partner. Furthermore, having
independent interests will help you
keep your personal identity in a
relationship, which at times can feel
like a thing of the past.
Do you know what went wrong in your
past relationship(s)?
The first step to overcoming a problem
is to realize there is one. If you
haven't already, take an objective
look at your past relationships and
find out how you contributed to their
demise.
Do you know what you want in a new
partner?
If you haven't taken the time to
narrow this down, this could very
likely be the reason you are without.
When creating your list, be sure to
include things you do not want as
well. Mark off which things are red
flags and which things you can live
with. If you find an interest entering
a red flag zone, do yourself a favor
and look for someone else.
More questions to consider...
Do you feel you may be too insecure?
Are you focusing on the past more than
you are focusing on the here and now
or the future?
Do you feel you may be overly critical
or negative towards other people or
life?
Would you date you?
Source:
Loving You.com
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